Attachment: Are you ready to get Aware?

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Feb 11

How often to you hear about attachment styles? Do you know yours? Well, one thing I need to name in this topic is a reminder: By building deeper awareness of your attachment styles, you are not saying your parents did a “bad job.” This is not an exploration that you deserve to feel guilty for. All parents are doing the best they can with what they have been given. How were they parented? The way one parents ends up teaching that child what they need to become all the things their soul is meant to become: the good, the challenging, and the complex.

Attachment Styles:

Secure
Avoidant
Secure
Disorganized

Attached: By Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

Don’t assign yourself to this label. This will end up being a problem for you. Why? Because, surprise suprise: your attachment style shifts based on the presentation of the person across from you. With an intimate partner you may show up with anxious attached tendencies; but in a past relationship, you presented more avoidant. This is normal. You also will typically see differing tendencies with friends, coworkers, etc. So, no. You are not always “anxiously attached.” Don’t box yourself in. Learn how to manage your attachment tendencies based on your relationship’s presentation. It is rare to present as the same style as your partner & all pairings have their own challenges.

I’m here to help!

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